Average 3/4 wants to be admired for unique presentation, not mass-marketed stereotypes. Unlike the 3/2s, who want everybody to admire them, 3/4s are more interested in securing the attention of a select following. The introspection of the four-wing makes them less comfortable than 3/2 in social situations, although the powerful threeish social grace usually hides it. Because threeish vanity is stronger than fourish emotionality, they usually manage to stay cool in times of stress, unlike their neighbors, the more emotionally volatile 4/3s.
Balanced 3/4 is gentle, compassionate, and smoothly effective. When three integrates to six and four integrates to one, a new sense of social responsibility combines with the wisdom that comes from emotional detachment. Healthy 3/4s are effective at accomplishing real-world goals and intuitive enough to be good advisers. They make excellent business mentors or career counselors. They might be good at rescuing a failing company (or seeing that what is really needed is to break it up and sell the parts).
Extremely advanced 3/4 combines quiet self-assurance with deep emotional insight into other people’s experiences. They may appear at the tops of large organizations devoted to improving life for everyone on the planet, or they may work quietly behind the scenes, spreading a sense of confidence and optimism among the members of their team. Wherever they go they leave behind a feeling of deep connection and belonging. They are subtle teachers who set an example of compassionate action.
Unbalanced 3/4 hides loss of self-worth behind a veneer of artificial coolness. If the success-orientation of the three becomes too compulsive, and the fourish introspection gets out of hand, 3/4s lose their genuineness. They become less socially adept and somewhat manipulative, as fourish self-dislike leads to a twoish desire to reinforce self-image by manipulatively “helping” others. The self-deceptive pride that results is hidden behind emotional deadening as three pulls in the worst of nine. Such people can be difficult to like, because of the way they constantly remind themselves and others of their own accomplishments.
In the worst case, 3/4 is capable of atrocities, just like 3/2, except that because of the greater self-examination of the four-wing, such crimes are more likely to be isolated cases. 3/4 can be rather self-destructive as all the normal rules of social conduct are abandoned in an attempt to generate attention of any kind from others. In the deepest psychosis, mass-murder-suicides are possible. (Everyone else gets to be famous, but not me. But watch! I’ll get my fifteen minutes, when they see what I have done. Just wait. I’ll show them.)
3/4s are interested in appearing attractive and sexy, because they are threes, but the four-wing makes them also want to be unique and special. Their overall appearance usually includes elements that set them apart from the crowd. 3/4s usually want to set the next fashion, rather than following the current one. Fourish sensitivity to aesthetics and form gives them a subtlety and flair that 3/2s may lack. Like 4/3s, they want to inject a bit of drama into their presentation.
Some 3/4s find work that shows them to the world in a unique but culturally acceptable way. Pop singers, actors, politicians, and talk-show hosts. Others succeed by mastering the corporate world, becoming CEOs, entrepreneurs, fashion consultants. They might be in retail sales, insurance, real estate, or commodities. There are 3/4 architects, auto mechanics, novelists, and artists. Of course, 3/4s can also be found doing many other kinds of work.
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